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Exploring our differences helps
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Welcome to Step Three! The
focus is: Personality
The purpose of Step Three is to find out:
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what your preferences are |
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what you need to have energy, organize your
assignments, communicate with others, and manage your time. |
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- Read the choices outlined
below.
- Select the characteristics
that are true of you most of the time.
- Find out what you need
to live in a way that is most consistent with your preferences.
- Do the Self-Evaluation.
- Proceed
to Step Four - Food Sensitivities.
1. Read the choices outlined below.
If it is hard for you to make a choice, based
on the information given below, you may benefit from going to:
The
Personality Page or Humanmetrics,
Jung Typology Test. Answering the questions will help you find
out your four-letter type.
In each of these four sets of qualities below,
you will have a preference
for one or the other quality. This will give you your "letter".
Just because you prefer to act in one way, doesn't mean that you
can't be the other way in certain situations. It's a little like
handedness. Although I have two hands, I am right-handed and it's
more comfortable for me to use my right hand. However, I can use
my left hand if necessary.
Now we will review the four dimensions of personality:
| a) Introversion (I) |
......... |
Extraversion (E) |
| b) Sensing (S) |
......... |
Intuiting (N) |
| c) Feeling (F) |
......... |
Thinking (T) |
| d) Judging (J) |
......... |
Perceiving (P) |
As you consider the pairs of qualities outlined
below, you will notice that you probably prefer one way of being
to the other. It will tend to be your "first instinct"
and what feels just a little more comfortable to you. If you are
not sure, ask others who know you. This is where your helper comes
in handy. When you make your choice, think of how you were at
the best (least stressful) time of your life. For many adults,
this was in their late teens or early twenties. If your children
are too young to give an answer to this question, you can answer
for them.
Now, take a piece of paper, make a line with
four sections. This is where you will be recording your answers.
_________
I or E |
_________
S or N |
_________
F or T |
_________
J or P |
Which one of each pair of characteristics tends
to describe you most accurately? Are you more of?
a) An
INTROVERT (I) who needs time
alone and who gets re-energized by being by yourself?
Or an EXTRAVERT
(E) who needs to be around people in order to feel re-energized
and needs to "talk out" your ideas?
Make a note of your choice: I OR E
b) A SENSING
(S) person who likes things neat, tidy and accurate,
is able to memorize lots of details and prefers to do tasks
in a "step-by-step" way?
Or an INTUITIVE
(N) person who likes to think about the "big picture"
and abstract ideas and who tends to do things in new and different
ways. This person often has problems with details and accuracy.
Make a note of your choice: S OR N
c) A FEELING
(F) person who knows how others feel and tends to avoid
conflict?
Or a THINKING
(T) person who likes to take the logical approach and
"speak the truth", but may not always know how the
other person is feeling?
Make a note of your choice: F OR T
d) A JUDGING (J) person
who likes to be organized, make plans, have "TO DO"
lists and finish what they start?
Or a PERCEIVING
(P) person who is flexible and adaptable and who likes
to spend time having new experiences rather than finishing tasks
or old projects?
Make a note of your choice: J OR P
 Remember, if you find it difficult to make these choices, see:
The
Personality Page or Humanmetrics,
Jung Typology Test.
2. Select the characteristics that are true of you most of the time.
What four letters did you write on the line?
_________
I or E |
_________
S or N |
_________
F or T |
_________
J or P |
This is what we call your 4-letter type.
3. Find out what you need to live in a way that is most consistent
with your preferences.
I will summarize the implications of your preferences
in the areas of energy, learning, communication and time management.
See We're Here to Help for more information
about how you function and what careers may be best for someone
with your preferences.
Energy:
If you are an Introvert, you need
to make sure that you have time alone every day (even if it's
just for 15 to 20 minutes). As an Extravert, you get
your energy from being with people. If you are living or working
alone, you might find it comforting to be with others by volunteering,
meeting friends at a coffee shop, or going to a busy restaurant
for a meal.
Organizing
Your Assignments:
As a Sensing person, you are a "bottom-up"
learner. This means that you need to begin with the facts and
then start to organize them. You may need help identifying the
abstract concepts involved. Try to identify one concept for
every 5 to 7 facts that you need to learn. When doing an assignment,
always use outlines that follow a step-by-step sequence. You
value detail and accuracy, but in a large project, even life,
it is easy to get bogged down in the details of a specific problem
and fail to see the "big picture". Sometimes you need
a friend who is an Intuitive type to help you put things in
perspective.
As an Intuiting person, you are a
"top down" learner. It is important for you to understand
the "big picture" and general concepts involved before
you attempt to master the facts. It can be difficult for you
to memorize details, but it helps if you can organize these
details in a comprehensive mind map with 5 to 7 points at the
most under each heading. Proofreading is also a major challenge.
You would do well to find a detail-oriented friend who could
proofread your work before submitting it.
Communication
with Others:
If you are a Feeling person, chances
are that you know HOW other people feel. You probably try to
take this into consideration in working with others. What may
surprise you is that not everyone has this gift of knowing how
others feel. Since you like to avoid conflict, it can be hard
for you to stand up for yourself and your own needs. Learning
to use I-messages
can help you to let others know how YOU feel in the most direct
and gentlest way possible.
If you are a Thinking person, you
tend to value logic over the feelings of others when you are
trying to make a decision. People may feel that you are insensitive
or abrupt, mostly because you may not be making enough effort
to take their feelings into account. It is good to ask others
how they are feeling. Don't assume you know.
Time Management:
If you are a Judging person, you like
to be organized, make decisions, and finish what you start.
It can be very helpful to ask others to give you a 5 to 10 minute
warning when it's time to move onto another activity. For you,
plans are comforting. Without a plan or schedule, you might
feel unsettled or anxious. Just because you have planned something
doesn't mean that you are not open to change… it just might
take some time to consider the options before you are comfortable
switching directions.
As a Perceiving person, you are very
flexible and adaptable. You get more of a thrill from learning
new information than from finishing things. Your biggest challenge
is in time management and your best strategy is likely to be
"work before play". Even though you tend to feel like
you are in prison when you have a plan or schedule to follow,
you can set your life up in such as way so that you can get
your work done and be able to respond to anything spontaneous
that comes up.
Reminder!
You know yourself best, so if these suggestions work for
you, great. If not, I encourage you to do what you feel is best.
At this point, we're done with The Personality
Page. If you want to learn more about your own personality and
that of others with whom you live and work, see We're
Here to Help. It's up to you, whether or not you look at this
information now or later.
4. Do the Self-Evaluation.
Our goal in Step Three - Personality was to see:
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what your preferences are |
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what you need to have energy, organize
your assignments, communicate with others, and manage your
time. |
Were you able to choose a 4-letter type? Yes or No?
 If
YES, did it make sense? Great!
 If
NO, did you go to the web site The
Personality Page and complete the questionnaire designed
to help you choose your type? Yes or No?
If
YES, you were able to choose a 4-letter type. Did you read
the Summary
of 4 Letter Types? Now that you know your type and the
implications, I hope that you make a note of these suggestions,
try them out and see if they work for you.
If
YES, you went to the website, but it was still hard to decide,
you may need to see a professional trained in this area (Let's
Chat!).
If
NO, go back and review the information on personality on the
web site The
Personality Page. The better you will be able to understand
yourself and others, the better you will get along with others.
5. Go to Step Four - Food Sensitivities
 More questions? We're Here to Help
  
Q1: Why are we looking at personality?
A: The
purpose of this page is to help you learn to understand, accept
and celebrate yourself. Discovering your personality type does
not define all of who you are. It does, however, provide you with
guidelines to live in such a way that honours and respects who
you are.
Q2: What if my child or I already
know our personality type?
A:
In my experience, many people who have participated in workshops
or have had formal assessments of their personality type may have
forgotten what their type is and what the implications of each
type are. If you were tested when you were under stress, when
your marital status or career was in transition, or when you were
too young to be given questions on a formal test; you may have
given answers that didn't really reflect who you are at your core.
Therefore, even if you already know your personality
type, I encourage you to go through this step, see if you recognize
any patterns and learn about some simple strategies that can have
far-reaching effects.
Q3: How can you tell my personality
type without doing the test?
A: We
are using a "consultative" approach that looks at general
patterns, rather than one based on formal assessment. Just relax
and have fun with it. If you would feel more comfortable taking
a test on the Internet or if you want more details about this
way of understanding yourself and others, see We're
Here to Help page when you are finished.
Q4: If you can't tell my type,
what is the point of doing this exercise?
A: Generating
your 4-letter type as we have done here cannot be considered a
formal evaluation of your personality. It is also beyond the scope
of the Self-Managed Journey to be able to tell if your choices
accurately reflect your personality or that of your loved ones.
For this, you will need an individual evaluation by a trained
MBTI practitioner. However, it can still help to be aware of the
differences in people's preferences, in order to become more sensitive
to what we need and how that might be different from others around
us.
Q5: Why do you include this way
of looking at personality? Aren't there many other ways too?
A:
There can be many ways of understanding personality. This way
of looking at people is not the "be all and end all"
of who you are, but it does provide you with some guidelines on
living in ways that honour and respect how you are wired.
Q6: Where did this way of looking
at personality come from?
A: This
way of looking at personality is based on the Myers-Briggs Type
Indicator (MBTI®). If you would like to be trained in administering
the formal test or find a practitioner who is trained in your
area - see We're Here to Help page.
Q7: What else can you tell me
about myself now that I know my 4-letter type?
A: For
a summary of various aspects of your personality, according to
your preferences, read Summary
of 4 Letter Types.
More questions? We're Here to Help
If not, see Step
Four - Food Sensitivities.
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